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Hi, we’re Matt, Julia and Isaac, along with dogs Matilda and Pavlov- looking to expand our family! We hope you are getting the support you deserve right now. If you need anything further, our agency can assist you in exploring all your options. We would love to hear from you too! Seeing the world through our son’s eyes is amazing and we long to welcome another little one into our lives to nurture and appreciate. Your child would grow as part of a family that loves books, nature, music, and playfulness. They would learn how to explore their world, ask questions and cherish themselves and others. Our hearts welcome the idea of expanding our family to include you and yours; your child will be loved unconditionally by so many people and will always be in your life, in whatever way you choose.
We've designed this profile and our other materials to be as candid as possible, to see if you feel we might be a good fit. Check us out at pairtree.com, download our profile book, ask us any questions! We would love to answer your questions and learn more about you and your hopes for your child. Whichever path you choose, we truly wish you and your child the best.
Expectant mothers who choose to make an adoption plan may qualify for some level of financial assistance during their pregnancy. However, each person's situation and specific needs are different. Your adoption social worker can help you determine what level of assistance you qualify for and deserve. Many expectant mothers qualify for financial assistance to cover basic pregnancy and living expenses, including but not limited to - transportation reimbursement, utility assistance for phone, water, and electricity/gas, maternity clothing and supplements, etc.
Navigating a pregnancy alone is never easy. Depending on your situation and location, you may qualify for financial assistance to help cover the cost of basic living expenses, such as food and groceries.
Receiving quality medical care during your pregnancy is vital to both your health and the health of your baby. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your pregnancy-related medical expenses will be covered by the adoptive family.
Women who choose to place their baby for adoption may receive financial assistance to help cover the cost of rent and utilities. If you feel that you’ll need some help with these costs, it’s important to talk to your adoption social worker about it early in the process. Each expectant mother’s situation is different, and eligibility may vary.
In order to have a healthy pregnancy, it’s important that you have everything you need to lead a healthy lifestyle. Like food and groceries, the cost of some household items - like feminine and dental care items, along with prenatal supplements - may be covered during your pregnancy.
Placing a baby for adoption is a loving, but incredibly challenging decision to make. Many women experience an array of emotions during this time and find that counseling is very helpful in navigating those feelings. If you would like to receive counseling during or after your pregnancy, that can be arranged by your adoption social worker. The cost of counseling will be covered by the adoptive family or adoption organization.
If you need assistance with transportation, your adoption social worker can work with you to find the best solution. You may eligible for assistance with transportation costs or be connected with a transportation service to utilize during your pregnancy.
It won't cost you anything. If you choose to place your baby for adoption, all of your medical and legal fees will be covered and you may be eligible for financial assistance with other pregnancy-related expenses.
Yes. Even if you don’t know the identity of the birth father, you can still choose to make an adoption plan. However, every adoption situation is different. The adoption social worker you’re assigned to will get to know you and your story first, and then guide you through the process accordingly.
You can make an adoption plan at any point in your pregnancy, even after the baby has been born. But, it's important to start the process as early in your pregnancy as possible. Connecting with those resources will allow you to gain access to important medical services, including prenatal care, to help ensure a healthy pregnancy.
One aspect of your adoption plan is the "Hospital Plan" an outline of how you'd like your hospital stay and delivery to go. You can craft this on your own or with the help of your adoption social worker. But everything is up to you. You’ll be able to choose who comes to the hospital with you, who is in the room with you during delivery, and how much time you’d like to spend with the baby before signing the final papers.
As part of your adoption plan, you'll determine whether or not you’d like to have an open or closed adoption or something in between. Open adoptions may include phone calls, messaging (via social media, email, or text), and/or periodic visits each year. Closed adoptions may include no contact at all or annual updates provided to the birth parent(s) by the adoptive family. Each post-adoption relationship is different and can vary based on what an expectant mother chooses in her adoption plan.
Here's a picture from our music night. I'm using that term loosely- we're not the Von Trapps or even close. However, we do have a lot of fun making joyful noise! We spent part of this music night singing a little song (Matt made up the lyrics) about our waiting for you and a new little brother or sister for Isaac. We'll post a video of it soon- just don't put the volume up too loud!
Bear with me on this. Isaac was trying to play fetch with Matilda. He kept throwing the stick when she was off sniffing a bush or rolling on her back. He was getting frustrated and I had to explain that he needed to show her the stick- otherwise she wouldn't know he had thrown it or where to look for it. Just like in relationships- everyone needs to be on same page and communicate so that the activity can proceed. Needs and feelings should be accounted for. We hope this profile serves to start a relationship with you, built on mutual trust, respect and communication. I was trying to cleverly end this paragraph by referencing fetch again somehow but I got nothing!
I love being a dad. This is one of my favorite photos, from when we were digging under our lilac bushes...I don't always get as many "Daddy and Isaac" days as there are "Mommy and Isaac" days, because I usually work more days during the week. Of course I get to have #dadlife when we're all together too.Having dad time, especially quality time, means I get to share and experience something that's fun/exciting/new/stimulating with someone who's still got a lot to learn about the world. We recently went to the Museum of Science in Boston, where we (luckily) had a front-row seat for the Power of Electricity show. You can't dig two gigantic static-electricity generators in your backyard! (Well, if you can, you shouldn't!) It was a great chance to share my fascination with science and learning- not only did we get to (safely) see REALLY LOUD lightning up close, but it led into a great conversation about how electricity is part of our everyday lives. I think a curiosity about the world around them and a sense that learning is FUN serve kids well, and giving them that is one thing I love about being a dad.
It was a great weekend to walk the dogs at a nearby preserve that used to be a farm. Isaac was a little confused about how it could be a farm with no animals. We were able to distract him by searching for signs of wildlife and throwing the ball for the dogs. That's another thing I look forward to about having another child- helping them explore what they enjoy and seeing all our favorite places new through their eyes.
We got out the marble run today. It was a lot of fun- but I think we'll need an extension set - more wheels! more ramps! The run was a Christmas gift but Isaac hadn't played with it much. Every once in a while, we rotate his toys or try to pull an unused one out. This one was a success!
We took our dogs for a hike and right before we got back to the car, we crossed a muddy brook. Pavlov stayed with Matt but Matilda took a dive! It reminded me of one of our first dates. Pavlov was his dog and Matilda was mine. Matter of fact, one reason I wrote him was that he had a black and white dog (thank you OK Cupid!). Our hiking date was punctuated by two splashes, one after another as Matilda followed Pavlov into the lake. I was surprised because Matilda had never done that before. Fortunately, Matt was prepared, having a large roll of super absorbent blue paper towels (ShamWow knockoffs) in his car trunk. It was the first time I had seen how many emergency supplies he had in there. I knew then he was a guy prepared for anything!
This Monday we had a playdate at Southwick's Zoo. He and this little boy we were with have known each other since they were infants. They've grown up together but each have their own distinct personality. It helped me picture what Isaac might be like as a big brother. Isaac was rule follower, at one point telling his friend, who is a bit more independent, to "Stay with the grown ups!" On the other hand, he was so silly and playful, fully engaged in imagining things with his friend. I don't know who came up with what but one minute, they were giant animals, the next the rocks they were climbing became ships and in the next, something else entirely. In one part of the zoo, there's a forest where you can walk and feed the deer. He became so still and quiet, gently coaxing the deer to come and eat out of his hand. I think he will be a wonderful with a sibling- I can't wait to see what they bring out in each other! They'll build bonds that will last them a lifetime!
We cooked for our family night this past weekend and wanted to share a picture with you. We took a series of pictures and they just kept getting sillier. One thing Matt and I are looking forward to in our adoption journey is celebrating birth roots. Cooking recipes from everyone's backgrounds could be a fun way to do this!
Every Easter, Matt and I set up a scavenger hunt where we put clues in the plastic eggs in Isaac’s basket. The pictures are mainly drawn by Matt because my drawing attempts run toward the abstract. Isaac loved searching for the treats and small toys - at one point exclaiming over "that trickster rabbit" while shaking his head. We hope to soon have two pairs of feet running about, looking for that trickster rabbit's hiding places. One moment that really struck me was that he wanted to share his chocolate with Matt and I. I imagined him sharing with a little brother or sister. Matt, Isaac and I watched Smurf cartoons while eating breakfast. We try to minimize the amount of tv that Isaac watches- he had a bit of a melt down when we turned the tv off. One way to calm him down is to distract him by getting him to find a color or count something. Unfortunately I asked him to count the trees in a Monet print – the trees were all blurred together which did not help his mood! On the walk to a local church's easter egg hunt, we stopped at a bridge...
So I'm a procrastinator- I'll admit that up front. I had to come home from grocery shopping and then go straight back out to get the Easter candy from a local chocolate shop. That’s right, I didn’t buy the candy until the day before Easter (Easter Eve???) Fortunately, Matt and Isaac were working in the yard and able to help out by loading all the groceries into the wheelbarrow. That wheelbarrow...often times it's less used as intended and more as a fun ride for Isaac. There's plenty of room for another wee rider too!
We've tried to imagine what we would want to know if we were confronted with the decisions you’re facing. In this diary, we will show you ourselves, our values and how we parent. We hope that this will help you decide to learn more about us. Thank you for reading!
This picture doesn't do what happened justice. We were at the playground close to dusk- it had been a long day and it was also very windy. Myself I was pretty much ready to go home when I got there! Isaac was playing but sort of bored too. Then this little two year old girl started using this giant bubble hoop- she would hold it up to the wind and so many bubbles would come out...some big, some bumpy, some tiny. They were sparkling and swooping around on the wind. All the kids started chasing them, barely ever catching them but the entire place was filled with their laughter Isaac was gleeful (and he slept well that night!) These are the moments I treasure ...when the day is so ordinary and suddenly something unexpected happens and it becomes beautiful, magical even.
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